Today is Valentine's Day. Whether you're a fan or not, the thing that matters most is the quality of your relationships, not some card or gift. And your most important relationship is with yourself. If you're not dating anyone right now, you certainly have at least one wonderful person in your life. And I mean you. Today, treat yourself as a treasure yet to be discovered. Imagine how the most desirable guy in the world would treat you and treat yourself that way. This is important.

The way you value yourself changes the way the world responds to you. Today, treat yourself as a treasure yet to be discovered. Imagine how the most desirable guy in the world would treat you and treat yourself that way. This is important. When you make a habit of treating yourself like a treasure yet to be discovered, men pick up on it. You become a magnet for men who want a woman they can treasure. It happened to me.

Today begins MARDI GRAS week, so if you live near a Cajun restaurant, check out the party. Life is short, and you should enjoy every minute of it. More important than Valentine's Day, make room for laughter, good company, and a little celebration. Do something that reminds you that the day is yours. That is usually the best way to enjoy it. Even a small celebration can shift your whole outlook. A little joy goes a long way.

If you are in a relationship, don't get caught up in the hype. Some men are into Valentine's Day, and some don't get it at all. If the guy doesn't come bearing extravagant gifts, be open to the possibility that he thinks Valentine's Day is the over-hyped commercial holiday I do. If he forgets your birthday, that's another story. Love is better when it shows up every day, not just once a year. That is the standard that matters. The real point is how he treats you when no one is watching.